"That's not fair! You hate me!"
How many times have we heard children say those words after their parents have told them "No"? Children only hear their parents frustrating their desires for happiness. It never dawns upon them that their parents could be acting in their (the child's) best interest. As adults we come to understand that that is exactly what good parents are supposed to do!
"That's not fair! You hate me!" Those are the same charges leveled against the Church and individual Christians when they say "no" to behaviors (especially those of a sexual nature). There is no attempt to step back and consider the possibility that this "no" might have an entirely different motivation - one grounded in reason and authentic love for all concerned.
You would think we would have learned not to jump to conclusions so quickly.